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Cutting Corners? Give Yourself Free Flowers!

womanwithflowers_bigIt’s been a rough year. EcoStiletto.com is still the start-up that could, and my husband works in a fickle film industry. But I miss the little things that we now go without: Dinners out, guilt-free shopping, a bouquet of flowers on my dining room table. After putting the Barnacle (read: baby) down for a nap on Sunday, I decided to do something about that last item on my do-not-buy list.

After raking what seemed like a thousand tons of leaves and clearing out a back-wrenching pile of old tiles from the side of the house, I noticed something: The plum tree on the corner is blooming luscious pink blossoms. The snap peas in the garden are going crazy, sending up thick shoots into the air, twined together for stability with tiny little slinky shoots and anchored with delicate white flowers. The lavender is thick and and heavy with frosted leaves and tiny purple blossoms. And there’s some weird weed growing in an oversized pot next to the back door that’s sprouting tiny yellow flowers, which smell vaguely of garlic.

Spring has definitely sprung. At least in my little corner of the universe. (I live in California. So sue me.)

I got out my clippers. I battled the bees for a bough from the plum tree. I untangled the pea blossoms (and harvested a bowl’s worth of peas in the process). It took me about 20 minutes—a lot longer than it would have taken to pick out a bouquet at the supermarket—but I’ve never spent a better part of an hour. I piled the blossoms on the backyard table and put a vase filled with water next to them. Then I took my time, placing the fuller plants first, filling in the spaces with the delicate pea blossoms, accenting with lavender and stinky yellow blossoms.

The result? Okay, it doesn’t look like it came from a florists’ hand. (No, that’s not me in the stock photo above, and it’s certainly not my bouquet–those orchids look plastic!) But I know all the blossoms were grown without pesticides or insecticides. They were watered by the rain that has soaked our state for the last four weeks (our new DIY gardening regimen means shutting off the sprinklers), so they did nothing to deplete the water table.

The carbon footprint of my beautiful bouquet is nil. And the fact that it cost me nothing? Priceless.

What corners are you cutting? What are your inexpensive ways to indulge? Tell me about it!



Cheetos vs. Carrots: (Not) Fighting to Feed Kids Healthy Food

carrots21My kids are sick of healthy lunches. They don’t want organic soybean butter and Farmer’s Market fig jam sandwiches, they want Lunchables: crackers, processed cheese, salty disks that pass for lunch meat and a whole lot of chemicals wrapped up in a plastic box. My son just confessed he’s been dumping his organic carrot snacks in the trash (and I thought the ranch dip was decadent). My daughter’s been trading her edamame for Twinkies. Forget the organic veggie chips I carefully stowed in wax paper bags—heaven for these children would be to open up their lunch boxes and spy a bright-orange bag of Flamin’ Hot Cheetos.

If you haven’t been following the Cheetos controversy, last year’s NPR exposé found the snack has addictive properties that I’m theorizing might be caused by an excess of red dye number five. Every time Angelina Jolie takes her brood out for a walk, the paparazzi snaps them snacking on the deep-fried, day-glo crunchies. And the cheetah-emblazoned bag has elevated elementary-school pariahs to the status of homecoming kings—as long as they have trading privileges.

Now I’m no stranger to junk food. After enduring years of brown-bag lunches with an oversized, barely washed carrot from my father’s vegetable garden peeking out of the top as evidence of my snack, I spent many years of rebellion indulging in a plethora of processed foods. But the organic apple doesn’t fall far from the tree: I always felt better when I was eating healthy foods, like those I’d grown up with.

In the hopes that I’d similarly indoctrinate my own children, I introduced healthy eating habits early. As toddlers, my kids ate everything from seaweed to asparagus. I followed the five rules to a tee:

1. Have regular family meals.
2. Serve a variety of healthy foods and snacks.
3. Be a role model by eating healthy yourself.
4. Avoid battles over food.
5. Involve kids in the process.

We eat a family meal at least five nights a week. A big bowl of organic fruit sits on the counter. Most weekends, I take them to the Farmer’s Market. At the supermarket, we hold discussions in the processed food aisle about how my job as a parent is to protect them from harm—including chemicals.

But guess what? At 10 and seven, two out of my three children exist on a diet of pasta, pizza, chicken nuggets and the occasional hamburger. Occasionally, in the 15 minutes between theater class, skateboarding lessons and thrice-weekly baseball practice we even hit the McDonald’s drive-thru.

They gotta eat, right?

The point is, I do my best. The pasta is organic whole wheat, the pizza is homemade, the chicken nuggets are actually soy and hamburgers at home are free range and organic. All meals are augmented by a daily serving of green vegetables, and in-between snacks involve a whole lot of organic string cheese. My son has an aversion to fruit (hence, the string cheese), but both my daughters nibble on what’s in season.

Sometimes, I even let them have Cheetos. (But never in their lunch boxes.)

And, in keeping with rule number four, I try not to argue with them about food. I encourage, yes. I cajole, absolutely. And I definitely set a good example. As a result, I hope one day my kids and I will sit down to a meal of freshly prepared foods that they don’t recognize—and they’ll take a bite, without question. I may have to wait until they’re 25, but I do believe it can happen.

Hey, a mom can dream, can’t she?

Are you (not) fighting the good fight, too? Tell me what worked for you.



Bella’s Scent = Edward’s Love: Can Her Perfume Make Your Daughter Sick?

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I had the recent honor of speaking on a panel at the Teens Turning Green Summit this weekend. I was so incredibly, ridiculously, tear-jerkingly, awesomely inspired by the 200 women—many of them teens and tweens—who gathered in Marin, CA to talk about environmental awareness.

Now my kids are a little young to appreciate the value of a bunch of girls kissing a petition to legislate for lead-free lipstick. My son is 10 and lipstick, to him, is ludicrous; my daughter is seven and I’m trying to limit her to petro-free lip balm. The Barnacle (read: baby) just thinks it’s food.

But the whole experience made me think of my niece, an amazing Gen Y-er whom I watched come into the world and who is on the tail end of “tween,” the generation of eight-to-12-year-olds who are 20 million strong today and projected to hit 23 million by 2020, according to the U.S. Census. With 10-year-old Malia and eight-year-old Sasha Obama currently our Washington tweens-in-residence, all eyes are upon this potentially powerful group—especially beauty marketers.

Being naturally gorgeous herself (and no, it’s not just me who thinks so), C, as we’ll call my niece (because she’d kill me if I used her full name), has not yet begun to rely on the pancake-base-powder-blush-eyeliner-mascara-lip-gloss makeup routine that many teenagers turn to each morning, “putting on their faces” in a way that I haven’t seen since my grandmother refused to leave the house without her blue eye shadow.

But C has developed a serious penchant for perfume. Not just any perfume, but the heavy, yummy-sweet stuff that you can only get from synthetic fragrances. Now this totally makes sense, as these are the scents that are marketed to her in the stores where she shops (Forever 21, Claire’s, the Gap), the magazines and books that she reads (all currently related to “Twilight”), the websites she frequents (see previous), and the television and movies she watches (Disney, Nick, and the aforementioned vampires).

Remember Edward’s obsession with Bella’s scent? That’s the objective. Minus the blood.

The marketing experts who work with these companies to sell perfume to teens and tweens prey on two factors: first, that these girls are incredibly insecure about how they smell as their body chemistries shift and change, and second, the fact that, to them, makeup is typically verboten, while fragrance is an acceptable step towards womanhood that won’t raise eyebrows among their Gen X parents.

Perfume is just the tip of the iceberg. Once makeup is in the approved category, teen girls typically use more personal care products than women—an average of 17 as opposed to 12—because they’re experimenting with what they do and don’t like. And because they’re on limited budgets, typically these products are the least inexpensive in the category—think Bonnie Bell, Wet ‘n Wild, Maybelline. Unfortunately, these cheap products are manufactured from the cheapest chemical ingredients.

In fact, the Environmental Working Group found that most American girls typically have 13 different hormone-altering chemicals in their bodies at any given time. Overwhelmingly, tests of a small sample of girls detected paraben preservatives—typically “methylparaben” and “propylparaben”—in their blood and urine. Parabens have been linked to an increase in prostate and breast cancer, genital abnormalities in male babies, a decline in semen quality in men and early onset of puberty in girls.

They’re also in perfume.

The EWG’s study used a small sample group—only 20 girls. Obviously tests need to be done on a larger scale. But bigger studies have linked these chemicals to cancer and hormone disruption—both problems that have spiked in children in recent years. Childhood cancer rates are up 30% in the last 30 years, according to the Progressive Policy Institute. Girls today are menstruating as early as eight. And scientists like New York doctor Frank Lipman are starting to look at the links between health risks and chemicals in personal care products. Although each product might have a low level of potentially dangerous chemicals, the 17 mixed together can pack a potent toxic punch.

How is it possible that beauty companies manufacturing teen products create them with ingredients that have been linked to serious health problems–even cancer? Because–newsflash–the beauty industry is unregulated:

• Companies are not required to test products or ingredients for safety before they’re sold, manufacturers can use whatever chemicals they want in their products, and are not required to disclose their ingredients.
• The Toxic Substances Control Act was passed over 30 years ago and takes as its premise that chemicals are safe until they have been proven unsafe.
• A recent article (from which I “borrowed” the frightening picture above),reports that the industry-funded panel of scientists that make up the self-policing Cosmetic Ingredient Review has looked at only 11% of all ingredients in cosmetic products, and has ignored studies linking ingredients to cancer, birth defects and hormonal disruption.

It’s hard to prove an ingredient is unsafe when your review board is paid by the companies that use it.

Other countries are a little better at regulating. The EU outlawed dibutyl phthalate in nail polish because it causes birth defects; in response, one American manufacturer who shall remain nameless produced a version for American distribution in the same factory as a DBP-free version destined for the European market, rather than making one that’s safer for all. And last month, Canada banned lead in lipstick, something the Teens Turning Green group is advocating for in the U.S. with the clever “kiss a petition” campaign.

Now teenagers aren’t known for worrying about safety. They’re just trying to get through the day without too much anxiety about fitting in. And much of that fitting in involves identifying with their peers—through makeup and fragrance.

But as my niece’s perfume affinity increases, so have her frequent headaches. And although I’ve avoided getting all heavy on her with talk about cancer and early onset menstruation, I did gently suggest that she might consider cold-turkeying her perfume habit in an effort to ascertain if the synthetic perfumes might be contributing to a fragrance allergy manifesting itself in headaches.

She just as politely ignored me.

So my activism on behalf of C has taken another turn. I’m sending her a full set of Teens Going Green chemical-free beauty products for her birthday this year. I’m founding the Los Angeles chapter of the organization this spring. And the next time a petition makes it to New Orleans, I’m going to send her some lead-free lipstick to kiss it with.

Because there’s no reason why she should be hurt by an industry that cares more about her money than her welfare. And the only way to convince her otherwise is to show her that products which don’t contain chemicals work just as well.

Now if Teens Turning Green would  just come out with a perfume.



DIY To Go Green And Save Money

Is green really the new black? In 2006, $32.8 billion was spent on healthy and eco-friendly food, beverage, personal care, and household products. In 2008, $7 billion was spent on natural and organic personal care products alone. And the natural household products category is projected to grow to $1.48 billion in 2011 (an increase of 119% from 2006).

Apparently, even in today’s economy, green is the new green.

But that doesn’t mean it has to cost you more money to go there. As demand grows and the supply of sustainable materials gets stronger, the cost of eco-friendly products goes down until they compete with the mainstream stand-bys on the shelves.

A few months ago, I tested organic versus conventional kids’ lunches and found six cents difference in favor of the organic version: Check out the video to see how that breaks down. By now you’d probably save a whole dime to go green at lunchtime, and you’d certainly prevent your kids from ingesting a whole heckuva lot of pesticides.

But the fastest way to go green and save some green at the same time? Make your own.

DIY FASHION

Denim trends change faster than lip color—but tossing your jeans because they’re last year’s boot cut means you’re adding to the four millions tons of textile waste that hit our landfills every year, according to TextileRecycle.org. Instead, reincarnate them for pennies by turning them into something eco-fabulous, following step-by-step instructions from Born-Again Vintage: 25 Ways to Deconstruct, Reinvent and Recycle Your Wardrobe (Potter Craft, December 2008). With one pair of jeans, you get three new additions to your wardrobe, with little more cost than thread (and elbow grease). First, cut off the legs, seam rip the center seam and fray the cuff to make a cute mini. Next, take one of the discarded legs, turn it inside out and sew up the sides. Add a zipper and strap and you’ve got a retro denim tote. With the leftovers, make a headband accented by a tricked-out denim flower. And you thought your sewing skills maxed out in seventh grade Home Ec.

HAUT LIPGLOSS AT HUMBLE PRICES

Got a double boiler, an organic mint candy and a beet? You’ve got the season’s hottest eco-friendly lip gloss, according to eHow. You’ll need:

Beeswax
Sweet almond oil
Double boiler
A Vitamin E capsule
An organic mint hard candy
Essential oil (optional)
A fresh beet
A small sealable container

Melt 2 tsp. of beeswax and 2 tbsp. of cold pressed or extra virgin sweet almond oil in a double boiler. It is important that you heat the mixture slowly, as excess temperatures can destroy the healing elements of natural oils. Make sure that the mixture never gets so hot that it is uncomfortable to touch.

Remove from heat and stir in two to four drops of oil squeezed from a vitamin E capsule. Vitamin E has antioxidant properties that will nourish and protect your lips, but it is also a natural preservative for your natural lip gloss.

Melt a very small piece of organic peppermint candy into the wax and oil mixture.

Slice a piece of raw beet and add it to the mixture. Add more or less depending on how deep you want the color, but make sure to fish out the pieces before it cools. The amount of dye you add to your lip gloss will depend on your personal choice; however, you should make the shade in the pot slightly darker than the desired finished color.

Stir the mixture occasionally as you allow it to cool. While still slightly warm, transfer your natural lip gloss into a small sealable container, allowing it to cool completely before sealing.

A CLEAN HOUSE FOR PENNIES

I’m addicted to Susan Carpenter’s Realist Idealist column in the Los Angeles Times, mainly because she’s so damned skeptical it makes me laugh. But last week’s column—about four simple, environmentally friendly ingredients that can clean your house from top to bottom—made her a believer.

The truth is, our grandmothers cleaned with white distilled vinegar, baking soda, castile soap and water for hundreds of years until the chemical industry began marketing expensive alternatives, which resulted in 85,000 new chemicals into our households over the past 50 years, according to Healthy Child, Healthy World. No wonder our kids have asthma.

Susan bought a $2 bottle of white distilled vinegar (a disinfectant and deodorant), $1 worth of baking soda (a deodorant and mild abrasive) and a $10 jug of castile soap (made of 100% vegetable oil). With a little water, she mixed it up in recycled cleaning product containers and scrubbed away at windows, toilets, tubs, floors and sinks. Adding a squeeze of lemon juice (a disinfectant) and a dash of olive oil (a lubricant) to the castile soap, she dusted and shined her wood furniture. That’s a $13 investment that yields materials to keep your house clean for months.

What are your money-saving tips in the fashion, beauty or lifestyle departments? Do any of them happen to be green, too? Tell me about it!